What you don't realize is that there are casual phrases that people in toxic love with each other use that drive a wedge between them. These types of toxic phrases & communication make it difficult to build closeness and connection, which you need to have trust and love. 'I’m sorry if…'DimaBerlin / ShutterstockAlmost everyone finds it hard to admit when they’ve done something wrong. One of the biggest mistakes people make is starting an apology with, “I’m sorry if…” “I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings." “I’m sorry I…” and “I’m sorry for…” work infinitely better than “I’m sorry if…” A simple “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings” is the type of apology that brings people closer together.