If you’ve been on TikTok, you’ve likely seen the term “bird behavior” flying about. “Bird” makes it sound like the problem is that I keep flying back. But here’s what’s been bothering me: “bird” makes it sound like the problem is that I keep flying back. I’m still in it, but maybe the real bird behavior isn’t mine. Maybe it’s a culture more comfortable with mocking a woman for wanting love than naming a man for withholding it.