One partner may enjoy dominance, restraint, role-play, or another form of kink, while the other may prefer sex centered on affection, pleasure, closeness, or emotional connection. No one is obligated to try a sexual act simply because a partner wants it. Firm limits are valid even when a kink matters greatly to your partner. For example, you may feel uncomfortable if your partner wants to include fantasies about someone else during sex, and that discomfort is enough reason to set a clear limit. Look for Mutual AlternativesAsk what emotional or physical experience attracts your partner to the kink.