It became even more suspicious around his birthday, when she tried to surprise him at work and discovered he wasn’t there. According to the woman, she had simply asked a coworker whether he was working and contacted two friends to ask where he was. She had initially wondered whether another woman might be involved, but said she found nothing to suggest that was the case. For the woman in this story, the issue was not that her boyfriend wanted to spend time with his friends. Would you have given the boyfriend another chance, or would the repeated dishonesty have been enough for you to step away?