But I love my relationship and don’t want to endanger it anymore and I don’t want to be a dick to other people when they realize I’m not open for more. Feeling Like I’m Risking TroubleA little light flirting is fine, FLIRT, even for people in monogamous relationships. If you sense that your flirting partner is starting to doubt whether you meant it when you said you were monogamous, dial it back down. My little drama is, I’m in an open relationship where we’ve had ongoing issues with communication and emotional labor. And this week on the Savage Lovecast: Have you ever slept with a clown?