Judith Martin, known as Miss Manners, answers a question about people talking about weight – gaining it and losing it. CanvaDEAR MISS MANNERS: In 2011, I had weight loss surgery. Of course, a lot of people think I “took the easy way” to lose weight, but surgery is not a miracle cure, just a tool. Instead of weighing (sorry) the relative inequities of who gets to talk about size and who does not, Miss Manners will tell everyone equally: Just stop it. (Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, dearmissmanners@gmail.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)