The time to resolve it is now because, as everyone knows, you should never go to bed angry, right? She referred to the acronym HALT, a common reminder in therapy that people should avoid serious discussions when hungry, angry, lonely or tired. When one partner needs space, it’s incumbent on the other person not to interpret that space as rejection, Romanoff said. Whiten said many couples in her practice have at least one person who feels they won’t be able to sleep until they resolve a fight. “When people can learn to do that, it’s really transformative.”Stop arguments before they startRomanoff suggested that couples establish regular check-ins.