We live in different states, and during our most recent visit there, she kept pressuring my son to come back on his own for two or three weeks. I would be happy to never see her again while still encouraging my son to have a relationship with her. However, HE’S the one who doesn’t want to visit her without me and his dad, so it’s not US saying no. -- NEEDLED IN CONNECTICUTDEAR NEEDLED: No law states that you must send your son to visit your husband’s mother if he doesn’t want to go. ***Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.