DEAR MISS MANNERS: Please settle an ongoing dispute with my wife. GENTLE READER: That you have limited your question to theater seating is an enormous relief to Miss Manners. One approach is that our only job is to look after our own interests; others can look after theirs. Miss Manners sides with you. ***(Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, dearmissmanners@gmail.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)