At a recent leadership summit, thoughtful actor Kristen Bell was interviewed by psychologist Adam Grant. A people-pleasing attitude can interfere with even the most socially skilled person's ability to voice a simple preference. Bell explains how much she has thought about people-pleasing. The idea is that people-pleasing might seem to us to be about others, but it's actually motivated by a fear of discomfort. Yet, in just a few minutes, Bell and Grant invoke many highly philosophical concepts: emotional energy, authenticity, fear, emotional boundaries, control, niceness, selfishness.