what do you get a man for his birthday“what is your love language?”father hugged memother kissed methat is what you say when you don’tknow how to love. I never had my roomfour eyes blinked at the ceiling. was this how I loved? the wings of fireflies and between stolen moments in their lightme and my sister spoke to flies you swatted into the wallspaint peelingshe got you a nonstick frying panyou made uspancakes after your birthdaywhat do u get a man for his birthday? the umbrella-patterned tie to rest and lie stilla decoration for the wooden windowsill that creeks like his kneesfaux wood colored desks that he can buildwhen he’s boreda piece of furniture for your clothesand a perrywrinkle tieto match your dress at 34you buy a pocket knifefor yourselfa bouquet of lilies for your shelf “men only get flowers at their funerals.”