DEAR ABBY: Relatives weigh wedding gift for undeserving nephew The advice-seeker has witnessed only narcissism and rudeness from him. Photo by jb325 / Adobe StockArticle content DEAR ABBY: Our nephew “Conrad” is engaged to be married soon. If, according to Conrad, we do not exist, are we still obligated to send a wedding gift? Try refreshing your browser, or DEAR ABBY: Relatives weigh wedding gift for undeserving nephew Back to video We apologize, but this video has failed to load. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.