He’s treating you like a second-class citizen, and I’m truly sorry you’re finding out the hard way that your husband’s a twit. When you’re married, regardless of who earns the money, you both have an income. You each have a say in where every single one of those dollars goes. Just because I earn an income at my job and my wife doesn’t have an earned income personally, that doesn’t invalidate her power or right to a vote within our household. You are living in a majorly dysfunctional marriage, and it’s something I can’t fix within the confines of a column.