The Miami-based pastors of VOUS Church say counseling isn’t an ambulance you call when your marriage is in flames. “The idea that you only go to counseling once you have a problem is one of the biggest misconceptions out there,” Rich said. Why would marriage be any different?”She sees counseling less as damage control and more as casting a vision. But couples who’ve done the work — through counseling, mentorship and preventative rhythms — have the tools to come out stronger. Counseling isn’t a shameful last resort.