There’s no magic age when you’re suddenly “ready” to be married, and there’s certainly no guarantee that the person you’re dating now is “the one.” If there’s anything I’ve learned from dating over the last decade, it’s definitely that. The truth is: Unless you marry that person, you’re going to break up. Because it’s true what they say: You’re closer to finding your spouse when you’re single than when you’re dating someone that’s not right for you. Dating and marriage are not going to lead to your happiness. As Gary Thomas shares in his pivotal book Sacred Marriage, relationships are about your holiness, not your happiness.