— Girlfriendly Instinct Flagging ThisThis man is not your husband, he’s your boyfriend; his millions are not your millions, they’re his millions. I'm considering joining a kink/swinger club to satisfy her needs while I'm unable. If I do get her to join the kink/swinger club and break up with her six months later, she'll assume I broke up with her because seeing her with someone else broke me somehow. If you think convincing her to attend a kink/swinger club with you might actually revive your sex life, it’s still a somewhat/semi-noble goal, and I will allow it. Email your question for the column to [email protected] or record your question for the Savage Lovecast at savage.love/askdan.