I’m told the clitoris is not hard to find — go north, young man — but if one tries to find it and one fails, one should pull over (or pull out) and ask for directions. If your boyfriend is pushing you to have PIV sex in positions that are painful for you, he’s a selfish asshole and you should DTMFA. Should a woman “prep” every time before doing anything anal — even just a plug? As for butt plugs: since they don’t go in and out during sex, they don’t require prep. Email your question for the column to [email protected] or record your question for the Savage Lovecast at savage.love/askdan.