Just say it — but say it in the presence of a sex-positive couples’ counselor. I'm insecure about my body, I worry I'll say or do something stupid and I worry I'll fuck up any relationship I enter. How do I communicate this to guys I hook up with in a way that is sexy? Is there a way to tell a partner what you want in the moment while keeping it sexy? Email your question for the column to [email protected] or record your question for the Savage Lovecast at savage.love/askdan.