If you’re generally satisfied — if you’re satisfied enough (really, the best any of us can hope for!) You agreed to a “one-penis policy” back when you weren’t interested in other penises, BLAAHS, but that’s changed, and that change has changed your marriage. Getting your marriage back to a happy, healthy and horny place is gonna involve risk. And while it’s tempting to say, “What do you have to lose?” (since your sex life is a wreck and resentment is a cancer), it’s not just your marriage that’s at stake. Email your question for the column to [email protected] or record your question for the Savage Lovecast at savage.love/askdan.