I’m going through a divorce and connected with a long-ago boyfriend in a similar boat. If you’re going to be an important part of your boyfriend’s life going forward (potentially the most important part), that means Alex is gonna be part of your life, too. So, your boyfriend may be mentioning Alex in an effort to normalize Alex’s presence — and your new boyfriend could be testing you. Hot exes make great thirds, because your boyfriend is less likely to leave you for someone he’s already left. Email your question for the column to [email protected] or record your question for the Savage Lovecast at savage.love/askdan.