But I find that we white people still tend to have amnesia about our own history of settler colonialism. The process went far beyond a tidy phrase like “white guilt.” Over time, I began distinguishing guilt from accountability. This essay is excerpted with permission from Becoming a Good Relative: Calling White Settlers Toward Truth, Healing, and Repair by Hilary Giovale (Green Writers Press, 2024). She divests from whiteness and bridges divides with truth, healing, apology, and forgiveness. She is the author of Becoming a Good Relative: Calling White Settlers Toward Truth, Healing, and Repair (Green Writers Press, 2024).