DEAR ABBY: I am a man who was widowed 11 months ago. I met a woman on a dating site, and we clicked immediately. Although she indicated on the dating site her status as “separated for two years,” she still lives in the marital house with her husband. How can I protect my heart and move on to a relationship that meets my needs? Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.