Dear Annie: I recently started a new job at a software company, and for the most part, I really like it. I don’t think she’s being unkind. If anything, I think she’s trying to be helpful and make sure everything is done right. -- Trying to BreatheDear Trying: That’s a tricky line to toe, especially as a new hire. But tricky doesn’t mean impossible; it just means you need to choose your wording carefully.