We were comfortably retired until our 44-year-old daughter and 9-year-old granddaughter moved in with us a few weeks ago. If my daughter or granddaughter drop something on the floor, they don’t pick it up. – Mother in MessDear Mother: Your daughter is in a tough spot and you’re being very generous in your attempts to keep her afloat. Start by talking with your husband about what your shared expectations and hopes are for your new living situation. Also talk through what you’re both envisioning for a timeline, i.e., is your daughter staying indefinitely?