DEAR ABBY: I am a man who was widowed 11 months ago. I met a woman on a dating site, and we clicked immediately. How can I protect my heart and move on to a relationship that meets my needs? I don’t know all of the circumstances of her marriage, but I have a strong hunch neither do you. ***Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.