A man struggling with loneliness questions whether to hold on to a promise of love from a woman still tied to her marriage. Canva stock imageDear Abby: I am a man who was widowed 11 months ago. I met a woman on a dating site, and we clicked immediately. How can I protect my heart and move on to a relationship that meets my needs? See all “Dear Abby” columnsDear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.