In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to someone who just found out their husband of 37 years has been cheating on them for the last nine years. DreamstimeDear Eric: During Covid I found out my husband was having an affair with a woman out of the country, for nine years! My spouse stopped seeing the affair partner and continued to text but send money on a regular basis. We are now both retired and I have asked him to stop sending our retirement money to his affair partner. Because I know I can’t change him.