DEAR ABBY: I am a man who was widowed 11 months ago. Try refreshing your browser, or Play VideoDEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband for six years, together for eight. My husband has a kind, tender heart and knows how to bring me down to earth when I’m stressed. However, if you can’t do that, you will have to accept each other just the way you are — or not. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.