This niece announced her pregnancy to us (via FaceTime, as she doesn’t live locally) at a family birthday dinner that was held for her father’s and our son’s combined birthdays. While my brother-in-law may have been OK with sharing his birthday with his daughter’s announcement, our son was not forewarned nor had any say in how the events unfolded. Apparently, everyone at the dinner knew of our niece’s pregnancy and how she was to announce it, except for us. We don’t know that she’s in town until she’s already arrived, on the verge of leaving, or after she’s already gone. We’ve asked our niece repeatedly to forewarn us, too, whenever she plans to visit, but she still doesn’t.