“I prayed for the man that took my father’s life and I told him he is forgiven,” Green said. “That man – that young man – I forgive him,” Kirk said, to tens of thousands of people at her husband’s memorial on September 21. But during Sanford’s killing spree, Louis saw something else in him, she wrote. “Certainly sorrow, but no bitterness, no resentment.”The message of Louis was not just for the man who took her father’s life. “Fear breeds anger, anger breeds hate, hate breeds suffering,” Louis wrote.