Here’s the thing they don’t tell you in the self-help aisles, smelling faintly of desperation and patchouli: There’s a sentence. AdvertisementWhen you drop this sentence on a narcissist, it’s like throwing a lit match into their carefully constructed funhouse of garbage. Awareness isn’t loud. So, the sentence that makes a narcissist lose control of the game they're playing: “I see what you’re doing. That sentence isn’t just words.