You’re referring to pearling, a body modification where small pearl-like beads are inserted under the skin of the penis. Post-pearling, your cock — to the untrained eye (read: most eyes) — is gonna look like it’s covered in cysts that could burst at any moment. Since I’ve never had anal with someone who had their dick modified in this way, I can’t tell you what it’s like. What’s the best way for him to protect himself and me as we move into this next chapter? But he worries that he’s having too much sex, and thinking about sex so much that it’s distracting him at work.