By Robert J. BurrowesThese are all forms of listening but I want to talk about listening as an art – what I call ‘nisteling’ – and why and when this should be used. Because listening to the feelings of another person is likely to ‘trigger’ feelings in the listener, and that can be frightening. So the competition to ‘get the listening’, usually manifesting in what is popularly called an ‘argument’, quickly spirals down into ‘no-one is listening’. Because I believe that this is the essential foundation step in any strategy to end human violence (in all of its manifestations). Biodata: Robert J. Burrowes has a lifetime commitment to understanding and ending human violence.