CLEVELAND, Ohio -- When my child graduated from college and moved out, I redid their bedroom and turned it into a guest room. The issue is, they left the room destroyed and a huge mess. While they were at home, I respected their privacy and never entered the room, so I had no idea of its condition. You worked hard to make that room nice and comfortable, not to have it destroyed — and especially not by your child. Explain that while you were happy to help them out, you are disappointed in the way they left the room.