Dear Abby: I’m in an eight-month relationship with a man who is a sexy good dancer. I’m astonished at how some women ignore boundaries when you’re obviously in a relationship. Dear Abby: I remarried several years after my first wife passed away. I don’t know why her existence drives me crazy. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.