Dear Coleen: Drug addict uncle is hurting son's relationship with grandparents"I’m sick of trying to justify myself to my in-laws, who won’t visit us because they’re too scared to leave their son in their house alone." He’s been in trouble with the police more than once and has had a drug and alcohol problem for years. ‌Coleen saysI think you’re absolutely right to put your child first and it sounds as if your husband is on the same page. They love him and maybe they think they’re handling things the right way, but he’ll never sort himself out until he takes responsibility. You’re not being unreasonable by protecting your son, you don’t want to find him holding drug paraphernalia or seeing his uncle high or drunk and out of control.