Also, don’t automatically assume they can host you just because you asked. “Make sure you’re prepared for the answer to be yes or no, and accept and respect whatever answer they give you,” Swann says. Don’t make your host feel like a hurricane blew through their home, Swann says. For example, don’t ask your host to pick you up from the airport or borrow their car to go sightseeing. When you get home, don’t forget to return the favor and invite your host to your place for the next get-together.