Here’s some of their best advice. Dorton, who is from Concord, N.C., says she was “young and inexperienced” when she first became a parent. “I only wish I were as good when the girls were young.”Last year, a friend expecting her first grandchild asked Dorton for advice. I feel like I’m not only giving the grandchildren a different love, but I’m helping lessen the load on the parents.”Her advice: “Just love them! It’s a love that’s more free and less structured.”Her advice: Keep up backup supplies handy.