I know that at its core it’s just showing interest in a fun way and communicating it to someone with vulnerability and sincerity. The thing about flirting is that the way you flirt can be as varied and unique as the person doing the flirting. If folks aren’t responding well to your flirting, it’s good to both ask if your flirting style needs a little polish… but it also is worth asking if you’re flirting with the right people. The trick to finding your flirting style is knowing yourself and expressing yourself in an authentic manner. One form of flirting – that folks often don’t recognize as flirting – is “pebbling”.