These other women were married, she pointed out, so why should she consider motherhood without the commitment of marriage? “When I pushed back he said my standards are too high because I want an engagement ring, a real wedding, and a honeymoon.”Stock image of engagement. “I cannot shake the feeling that he just wants to settle with whoever is convenient,” she writes, noting that the realization hit hard. “He may not be a bad person, but he sounds like a bad boyfriend,” one wrote. Another said, “If he can't commit to a marriage, which can be ended, how in the heck does he think that he can commit to having a child??