Fundamental to the project of guesting in North Carolina is the notion that the space — any space, whatever space — does not belong only to you. Points of order: Do not, no matter your age, talk on your phone in a bar or coffee shop. If the latch on the window is wonky, break gently into the owner’s drawer/cabinet/closet, find the necessary tools, and fix it. Don’t blame any one person for slow service, and know that no one in the restaurant was hoping for that. Thank people: your Winston-Salem bartenders, your Nantahala rafting guides, your Efland friends who had you over for a proper meal.