The letter writer wrote, “It drives me nuts for him to call so much. “High Call Volume” could let his reconnected friend’s phone calls go to voicemail or talk to him the next time he calls. – Picking Up At My Own DiscretionDear Discretion: Though the letter writer has tried not answering, you make a good point about mindset. The letter writer can start to think of the calls from his friend as requests rather than demands. But the letter writer can still put boundaries in place around his own behavior that preserve the relationship.