Psychology research confirms what many of us learn the hard way: Certain behaviors, no matter how they’re packaged or explained away, are simply incompatible with healthy love. Today, I want to share eight behaviors that cross that line, behaviors that no amount of “but I love you” can justify. Someone who claims to love you but seems threatened by your achievements or dismissive of your dreams isn’t acting from love. If you recognize these behaviors in your relationship, please know this: Love shouldn’t hurt. Because when we tolerate the intolerable in the name of love, we’re not honoring love at all.