The problem is that you believed that attaining those things would make you happy, and you are stumped and frustrated that it doesn’t. Warning, though: These things are easy if you're already happy, but harder if you're miserable. Here are 5 things that are very easy if you're happy, but are super-challenging for miserable people:1. Even though you may be connected as a wife and mother, women need a sense of community with other women for support in everyday life. When we aren’t trying to compare ourselves to others, we will naturally gravitate to those things we actually do well.