I speak as one whose granddaughter was in a neighbouring building when the shooting took place. None of us can be expected to move immediately to a place of forgiveness. It might help to begin from a place of owning that the shooter was also someone’s grandson, someone’s son or brother, and to “stand” with his relatives in what they are experiencing. The Greek word for “stand” is rooted in the word stauros, meaning “cross”. We must “stand” in the event that causes them if the process of acceptance leading to forgiveness is to begin.