In which Holly breaks a heart. I’ve parted ways with one of the men I was seeing, but neither of us is broken-hearted. Women tend to initiate more break-ups than men, and when they do, some men are very surprised. As their token chick friend, it’s often left to me to point out that men tend to grieve a relationship after the break-up has happened, whereas women tend to grieve while they’re still in it. They have the right not to be bad-mouthed to common friends, and friends have the right not to be put in the middle.