But two or three times a year, I break out the table finery and have a more formal dinner with several courses and a carefully set table. Miss Manners hopes, however, that you will not otherwise dumb down your charming, seated dinner parties because of a few outlaws. DEAR MISS MANNERS: Our friends graciously offered us use of their rustic lakeside cabin, as they no longer can travel there themselves. How does Miss Manners suggest we respond? Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, dearmissmanners@gmail.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.