My wife can drink heavily with them on occasion, but mostly just so she doesn’t rock the boat. Before you talk to your wife, think about the role alcohol plays in your lives generally, and how you think that needs to change. Is there an amount that you would be comfortable with you or your wife drinking around the baby? Tell her you’ve been thinking about your relationship with alcohol and the baby, and want to talk it out. Sometimes with alcoholics, a boundary can be explicit—we can’t be around you when you’re drinking.