Dear Eric: I’m in my early 30s and seeing a really great guy. My boyfriend and I said “I love you” to each other a few weeks ago. – Not the GirlfriendDear Girlfriend: You can ask him to be your boyfriend. If he feels you’re heading toward a committed relationship, it’s fair to ask questions like, how long is this road to a relationship? Your relationship belongs to both of you, so don’t be afraid to ask for what you want or need.