Instead, I have to do all the reaching out, and do not feel that my efforts are returned. I am aware of “all the lonely people” around me. Your first question was “what is wrong with me?” Although I don’t know you, I know that you’re not alone in feeling this way. Dear Eric: I’m in my early 30s and seeing a really great guy. Your relationship belongs to both of you, so don’t be afraid to ask for what you want or need.